9 Sexy Must-Haves for a Cozy Night In with Your Significant Other


For some couples (I call them the “unicorn couples”), being stuck inside 24/7 due to the cold weather means doing the nasty more than you did when you were first dating. But for most couples, this time of year means a lack of motivation and an abundance of takeout or leftover Christmas cookies. In other words, your sex drive (and overall intimacy in the relationship) might be on the lower side these days.

1. The right scent

Candles not only set a romantic ambiance thanks to dim lighting and flickering fire (there’s a reason the sex scenes in every rom-com include candles), but sensuality is also about awakening each of the senses, and that includes smell. While some scents might be arousing based on a personal memory (like rose from the perfume you wore on your wedding night or vanilla from a lotion you used on your first trip away together), other scents might act as aphrodisiacs. Look for candles with spicy notes like cinnamon and sandalwood, luxurious scents like vanilla and ylang-ylang, or relaxing scents like lavender and sage. 


Dirty Vanilla Candle

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Sunday Riley

Come Upstairs Massage Candle

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Nudesse Pink Candle

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2. Bath (or shower) essentials

Foreplay is not just about the 10 to 30 minutes leading up to sex; it’s about building the anticipation throughout the entire day. Set yourself up to feel your best by indulging in some self-care in the bath or shower. Try dry brushing, exfoliating with bath salts or body scrubs, and massaging in an oil. Oh, and don’t forget to check yourself out in the mirror (confidence is the #1 best sex hack!). Plus, a relaxing bath or steamy shower can be part of the romantic night if you want to bring your significant other with you. After all, sex is self-care. 


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Detox Bath Soak

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Coconut Milk Bath Soak

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3. Luxurious beauty products

Speaking of confidence, how much pleasure you feel is not determined by how you look to your partner, but it can be determined by how you feel about yourself (your partner is going to think you’re smokin’, no matter what). Invest in products that make you feel good, whether it’s a full face of makeup, a brightening facial treatment, a spritz of perfume, or a texture spray to DIY bedhead. After all, beauty is not about what we think we have to do to look good; it’s about indulging in ourselves (because we’re worth it) and remembering how attractive we are (from the inside out). Get your glow on with the beauty products that make you feel your very best.

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K.I.S.S.I.N.G Lipstick

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Super Dry Shampoo

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N°5 Eau de Parfum

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Illuminating Gradual Tan Lotion

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4. Music to set the mood

It’s no surprise that music dictates the mood. How else would we know to feel hopeful and excited if the rom-com didn’t include Why Can’t I by Liz Phair, and would we even burst into tears if My Heart Will Go On didn’t play at the end of Titanic? Would Jaws be so scary without the daunting theme song, or would the rose ceremonies on The Bachelorette feel as dramatic without the suspenseful soundtrack? Music tells us how to feel, and that goes for getting in the mood too. Make a playlist of the songs that make you feel confident, sexy, and romantic, or turn on our “Get Sexy” playlist, filled with all the songs 13-year-old you were scandalized by (in the best way). 



5. Lube

At The Everygirl, we are big advocates for the fact that everyone (yes, everyone) should at least try lube. Our editor Beth even went so far as to say, “Personal lubricant is not a choice in my book; it is a necessary tool for sexual pleasure and health. Lube is the best sex toy you could ever add to the bedroom.” If that’s not convincing enough, I don’t know what is. Pick a lube that will not only increase pleasure but will also be good for your vagina, thanks to non-toxic ingredients, nourishing formulas, and treatment-like benefits

Woo More Play

Coconut Love Oil

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Fur Skincare

Fur Oil

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Rosebud Woman

Honor Everyday Balm

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6. Something pretty to wear

Disclaimer: If you feel your very best in your birthday suit, you go, girl. Feel free to skip this point and go on with your bad self. However, if wearing some pretty lingerie or wrapping yourself in a silky robe gets you in the mood, you deserve to treat yourself to something indulgent and luxe. If full-on lingerie isn’t your thing, even a pair of new underwear or a pajama set that makes you feel sexy can completely revamp your sex life (yes, really). After all, remember that your pleasure directly correlates to your confidence, and if a lacy bra helps you feel like the badass you are, it’s well worth any price tag.

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Floral Lace Unlined Bra

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Bare Necessities

Bracli Double Strand Pearl Thong

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Silk Long Sleep Slip Dress

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7. An activity

You may not think you need another activity than the activity, but experimenting with conversation starters like a couple’s journal or question cards could not only break you out of your routine but could also help you learn new things about your partner and even inspire you to try new things (yes, even if you’ve been together ~forever~). Especially if communication in the bedroom is not your strong suit or if you’re still figuring out what you like and don’t like, prompted questions can be a fun, relaxing way to open up communication. 

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Intimacy Deck

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Truth or Dare for Couples

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Magic Of Us

A Sex Journal for Couples

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8. Vibrator or sex toy

If you feel stuck in a sex rut or have trouble orgasming with your partner (AKA 75% of women), the answer might be to incorporate a vibrator or sex toy. Experimenting and trying new things are always important, but it’s also a good idea to have a go-to vibrator or sex toy that you both enjoy using (and that you also enjoy using alone). If you haven’t found a favorite or are interested in exploring, we have many helpful guides on vibrators and sex toys for partners (hint: there are lots of options). Bottom line: Talk it out together, explore some options, and figure out what you would both be into trying. 


Multispeed Plug In Massage Wand Vibrator

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Tracey Cox

Beginner’s Butt Plug

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Clitoral Mini Vibrator

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9. Luxurious bedding

Sex is better on vacation, right? Sure, maybe it’s thanks to the stress-free attitude, exciting new experiences, and the lack of kids/long to-do lists/daily chores you would normally have at home, but I also wouldn’t discount hotel bedding. Whether crisp pillows and clean sheets are turn-ons to you or not, upgrading your bedding can switch up your environment, and just a small change can make sex feel new. Some couples even switch out their bedding just for special occasions (a cozy night in counts as special), but you can also try a few simple upgrades like satin pillowcases, a linen duvet cover, or fur throw pillows.


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Faux Fur Square Throw Pillow

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Barefoot Dreams

Cozychic Barefoot In The Wild Throw

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